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Author: Lorentz (---.lsanca.dsl-w.verizon.net)
Date: 05-26-06 17:59
Sam, - Once again you have established yourself as the “poster child” of “posting.” You have hit the nail on the head in stating what this thread both is and has for the most part been about. With 78 posts and growing, -what does that say about the self resolving question in this particular neck of the woods ?? – So to do my part in moving toward the 100 post mark, I would hope that you might allow me to have your thoughts on a couple of points that you did not touch upon. As I was reading your note here, I considered that there may be further issues that affect this subject beyond those of bad attitude, lack of consideration and cultural differences. I’ll air a couple of them out.
The first thing that came to mind was the completely “unreal” nature of the medium that we utilize to interact here. There are so many things that are askew from what “real” social interaction is all about, it is difficult to decide upon where to begin. I would consider that it is easily agreed that MANY folks elect to not represent themselves or behave on line, as in ‘real life’- in person. This indicates a mindset of already accepting of the fantasciful sub-reality of “The Net.” The entire underlying concept, of any “dateline”- that a person can simply sign on and ‘go shopping’ for true love, as they might if they were seeking to acquire a good used car, I would surmise, seems no less ridiculous to the logical observer standing in Russia than it does to some counterpart in the U.S. – For those who engage in the effort, I have observed that all act a bit “braver” while sitting behind the safety of their computer screen, and I think more prejudiced, picky and judgmental than what they might ordinarily be. – I think this applies equally to the women as well as the men.
Of all the ways that this premise manifests itself, the initial glare comes from the fact that all the representations we make to ourselves about the individual we are interacting with are based on information that is nearly as useless as it may be misrepresentational. Completely disregarding the issue of photo’s as being too voluminous to include here, - every single site I have seen, sorts primarily ( after gender,) by AGE. – This absolutely does not occur in the “real world,” and places WAY TOO MUCH FOCUS on it here.
( Yes, this is true for me too, - take a look at my profile on the bottom right corner.) Personally, I am aware of no society that has its’ populous stroll around with the number of years they have been alive stamped on their forehead. – What ‘that guy’ meant to say was that while beauty may only be skin deep, - ugly is to the bone. – Attraction and interest in the real world is not predicated upon seeing someones birth certificate before you say hello. Of the gagillion examples I can think of, perhaps the easiest of all is that “Charlies Angels” movie that co-stars Demi Moore, who is my age, - and on the beach in a Bikini, not only measures up to her three 25 year old co-stars, but knocks them off the screen. To immediately quell any argument from the peanut gallery that this is some extreme exception, - I can site multiple member numbers from this site of women over the big “3-0” who will measure most favorably against any that are “25 years or less”- as this thread ‘supposedly’ addresses –( was started by a “26” year old who is actually 31.)
As one post discusses geriatric erectile dysfunction and another, young widowhood, these members seem to have their ducks in the wrong row. Putting the cart before the horse is much more likely to lead to an ‘unshared’ and wasted sexual prime, and young “old maid-hood.” –Whatever happened to all those Georgians from the Dannon Yogurt Commercials ?? – If it is true that the average life expectancy in the Ukraine is 59, it seems obvious that the women of the FSU need to adjust their thinking to the rest of the free world, should they intend to continue to interact with it. The U.S. does not have the longest average life span of any country, and it is still about 20 years more. ( Another interesting statistic is that the AVERAGE, so “normal” age difference in 2nd marriages in the U.S. has the husband separated by ten plus years from his younger wife, and these unions last in much higher percentages than do 1st marriages, a difference which would probably seem odd if you were in grade school. )
Understanding this while becoming aware of the fact that the U.S is “graying” might also be helpful. The common birth year for the greatest number of Americans is 1959; - the peak of the “Baby Boom.” ( Unstated that something far different was going on in the FSU during this time. ) The years from ’47 to ’63 comprise by far, the greatest section of the populous, - in other words, making most male U.S. citizens “Grandpa’s” by infamous Olga standards. (– I cannot speak to the age groupings in Turkey or various other countries.) Not coincidentally, the rest of the world’s most popular Rock Star, is over 65. The greatest number of our most popular actors ( Sean Connery 75, Clint Eastwood 77, James Garner 80, - Jack Nicholson, Harrison Ford, - Notice that not too many women seem to match the box office draw at the same ages however. ) – are getting a bit long in the tooth and YES, - IT IS NORMAL for them to engage in relations with women at least 25 years or more younger, and their female co-stars generally must be at least forty or more years younger. Much in the same way that I would worry about a 25-30 y.o.male here, who has his act together, - the rich and famous will probably not get caught looking across the globe for that which is so readily available across the street. – I suppose no female member has ever heard the name “Strom Thurmond.” Well, if they have, I can’t see how any interaction that occurs on this site would raise an eyebrow or be worth 78 posts. Since I have stuck on celebrities a bit here as examples, I am thinking that some of the female members who are not yet, should become familiar with the movie “Harold and Maude” – and see if the strong statements it makes about ‘romantic love’ survive the translation. – Hey, it’s a “Classic” – just like many of the cars made here during the year of my birth, - but not quite ready to be classified as an antique.
Chevy’s ain’t Yugo’s
Lorentz
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