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Author: Sam (---.dsl.irvnca.pacbell.net)
Date: 03-20-06 08:00
Reading the direct emails and posts in response to what I wrote, I suppose I was not clear enough. I see several posts here about how one Moslem man someone knows has behaved without honor to his woman and family. I do not doubt that such men exist. My point was a simpler and more basic one: it is not religion that makes men what they are; it is their culture. Even then, there are differences from person to person. I spent two years in long-distance relations with three Russian and Ukrainian women who lied and cheated me. I supported one for six months before I realized she was in relations with a casino owner who abused her but also gave her money. Another allowed our relation grow until my third trip when I waited at the train station for hours without any sign of her. Days later, I discovered all along she had had a Russian boyfriend who would not marry her until he discovered about me and saw he could lose her to me. The third story is even more sad and longer. I spent more than a year and nearly $30,000 in seven trips and expenses and monetary help to Slavic women who were not sincere and cheated me. Did I make a general conclusion about all Russians and Ukrainian? No I did not. I spent another year living in Russia and traveled to many of its cities, made many friends and saw AGAIN that until you know many many people from a culture you cannot make judgments about them. I now know Russians who are my dearest friends; I now know Russian women unlike the girls I met via internet. DESPITE my terrible experience with the first three ladies, I am now convinced I want to marry a Russian woman, because I now know from personal experience how Slavic women are GENERALLY SPEAKING feminine, hard-working, patient, and tender. Simply said, you cannot form general opinions about people of a culture until you know a lot of them.
Having said all that, I will still stand by what I said in the earlier post. Russian men are Christians and so are American men, but they are entirely different men… again because it is not religion but their cultures that makes them what they are. Turkish men are Moslem and so are Saudi men, but again they are entirely different cultures. American men are fair-minded, treat their wives as equals, and despite a 40 percent divorce rate in the US the great majority of American men continue to care for their children after divorce. It is true we have laws that force these men to help financially; but these men continue to be present in the lives of their children with feelings. From what I saw in Russia, and according to Putin’s own speech last year about the decline of Russian culture and family, there is a divorce rate of about 70 percent across Russia and the great majority of men who divorce simply disappear from their family life. The simple fact is a Russian or Ukrainian man who is financially able and who does not drink himself silly is a rare creature. There are fewer men to begin with; and there are too many beautiful Russian and Ukrainian women. I have lived there and I know. So Russian men are mostly as reliable as their options: if they are successful and healthy, they can have anyone and as many women as they want. I personally know married Russian businessmen who have apartments in different cities with young women as girlfriends in each city. They don’t behave this way because they are Christians or Russian: it is the reality of their culture at least for now. Russian culture has changed and so the men behave differently.
So, you can all write to me about the one Moslem man you know who did something terrible to some Slavic woman. All I have to say to it is this: the Moslem families are growing at a rate of nearly 100 percent every 17 years. Countries like Turkey, Iran will more than double their population when Russia is expected to have a population loss of 50 million by 2035; that is 30 percent less people in the next 30 years! It is worse for Ukraine. Ask yourselves who is taking care of these increasing Moslem families? Their governments have no programs for abandoned children. Ask yourself why Russia and Ukraine are losing population. I know Russian men who will work two jobs and raise a family with care; so it is possible. But most choose differently: those who don’t want to work hard choose to feel sorry for themselves, drink and smoke and hate their women who want to marry foreigners. Those who are wealthy decide to use as many women as they can. I do not like some things about the Moslem culture myself; but knowing their culture, the American and the Slavic culture as well as I do, I will say again, in general Moslems behave with more sense of family responsibility than Slavic men. It is their culture, not their religion.
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