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Do you find it easy to make conversation with new people youve just met? Or does the thought of trying to make conversation with someone new make you break out in a cold sweat?



If you dont feel comfortable making casual conversation with new people you have just met, you will find it harder to make new friends. You will also find it more difficult to fit in at your work place.



One of the most common reasons that people have difficulty making conversation with someone they dont know very well is because they put too much pressure on themselves.



Many people think that whenever they meet someone new, they have to say something really interesting and brilliant, right from the beginning. Even before they know the other person very well. They think they have to really put up a great performance to impress the other person.



They dont just let themselves just be ordinary, and talk about fairly ordinary things.



Heres a very important lesson to learn about making conversation with people: Insisting to yourself that you have to be brilliant and dazzling in all your conversations will not win you new friends. It will not even improve your conversational performance.



When you think to yourself that you have to perform perfectly in all your conversations, you will actually make your performance worse! You will become too nervous and awkward, and youll be too focused on your own performance. You wont be focused on getting to know the new person youve just met.



New people that you meet are not looking for brilliant conversation. What they are looking for is someone who will be comfortable to be with, and fun to talk to. But most of all they are looking for someone who seems interested in them!



For conversational success, its more important to be a good listener than to be a great talker.



When you are just starting out talking to a person, you can use your immediate surroundings or the weather as a basis for a few starting remarks.



If you want to know that person better, move on quickly to a slightly more personal level of discussion. Ask a few basic questions and offer a little bit of information about yourself, your likes or dislikes, or your opinion on some neutral topic. Notice whether the other person lights up with interest about any topics you mention.



This can give you new interesting areas for both of you to discuss. Even if it seems somewhat difficult and awkward for you in the beginning, develop the habit of introducing yourself to others as soon as you meet them, or very early in the conversation. Otherwise you could spend hours talking and neither of you will have any idea of what your conversation partners name is.



Socially confident people introduce themselves to their conversation partners very early in the course of conversation. People who are shy or socially awkward tend to introduce themselves much later, or not at all. Shy people often wait until someone asks for their name, but they rarely volunteer to give it, and they rarely ask the other person what their name is.



Sometimes it is easier to ask the other person for their name first, and then offer your own. If you practice the new behavior enough times, it will eventually become second nature to you. With enough practice, it will no longer seem intimidating to take a more active role.



The important thing is simply to develop the habit of starting simple little conversations with lots more people. Look for the interests you have in common.



If you want to be more socially successful, take the initiative to introduce yourself to new people and to get the conversational ball rolling. Dont hold back and let other people make all the first moves. If you have been holding back, waiting for other people to do all the work in the relationship, you are shirking your responsibility in making the relationship move forward.



Show interest in other people. Smile. Listen. Look at the person youre talking with.



Whenever you start talking to new people, dont strive for great dialogue, or the perfect opening lines. Just get started, and keep on talking. Practice making conversations with a lot of new people. You will eventually get better at it.



Dont decide that youre a failure if the encounter doesnt turn into a great friendship. After all, the truth is that the majority of conversations between new people dont really go anywhere. Thats all right. It takes time and effort to turn casual strangers into friends.



Remember, that all of the friends you already have were strangers to you at one point in your life. Until you started talking and found out what you have in common.



Learning how to make conversation with people you dont know well can be the first step in making many new friends.


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