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Margot Carmichael Lester
Is Your Date Lying to You?

How to tell if your new love interest is on the up-and-upor hiding behind half-truths.

Weve all dated people whove lied to us about something.

I once went out with a guy I met online who didnt tell me his real name for the first couple of dates, I guess to protect himself in case I was a psycho, recalls Marcia Borgia of Charlottesville, VA. The trouble was, I was used to calling him by the name he gave me and so were my friends whod met him, so it was hard to call him his right name. I gave up on that and then gave up on him.

I was dating someone exclusively who said that she pulled her online profile, says Charles Stevens of Boston. Weeks later, while she was out of town on business, our phone conversations became somewhat forced. I knew something was off, so I decided to check to see if her profile was still off the system. And there was her smiling face on her active profile. I confronted her, and she said she did it only because she was bored and wanted attention. Although she immediately yanked her profile, I broke up with her.

I took a good job that required a considerable daily commute, and my girlfriend feigned concern for me, says Kurt Grayson of Galveston, TX. She said that I should get an apartment closer to my work for the weeknights. Soon after that, she left me for her boss. Violins, please.

Nobody wants to date someone who cant tell the truth, but is there a way to identify these people before you fall for them? Yes, according to Greg Hartley, the author of How to Spot a Liar and a decorated military interrogator with years of experience in getting the truth from enemy combatants. You already know the best rule of thumb if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is, he says. Humans communicate in two languages: a spoken language and a body language. When the two do not mesh, I typically believe the body because we are aware of our words and can alter them carefully. To figure out if your dates a liar, establish a baseline his or her normal pattern of speech and behavior under low stress, as in a casual conversation. Then ask questions to which you know the answer, Hartley says. In the interrogation world, this is called a control question. Observe the persons behavior. Deviations from the baseline are an indicator of stress. Stress can indicate deception.

Margot Carmichael Lester

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