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Re: It is normal when the groom is more senior than the girl for 25 years?

Author: Sam (---.dsl.irvnca.pacbell.net)
Date: 06-05-06 22:05

Ron,

Thank you for your words! I agree with you completely that the Slavic ladies’ side is not well-represented. No doubt I do not see myself engaging the Ukrainian trio in any more dialogs: I find men here who have apprehensions or questions about making the transatlantic connection; I want to post things that make them believe they should do so; I like to share what I have learned in months of life in Ukraine and almost a year in Russia; and I like to make them feel that although it is a path fraught with many unknowns that in the end it is worth it. I find myself agitated as I see the superficial postings by the Ukrainian trio that more than anything else expose their superficiality, hang-ups and secret resentments. It is unfortunate that we do not have more people like Elena and Toni who are genuine people posting honest and CONSISTENT ideas.

In your reply you mentioned that there should be someone on the other side with equal sophistication. I think you are being too kind to me and them! Really most of these clashes do not arise from lack of sophistication, but rather lack of common sense! It is not an insult or a personal attack when I say an obscure Ukrainian woman with child wanting to interest Western men shouldn’t post on the site where she is searching that a successful man makes more money than his wife can spend; and a successful woman is one who has this man! It is a factual testimony to the lack of common sense between the image she needs to create about herself and what she instead is saying! I am an obscure man from the US wanting to make romantic connections in the East, but I know I cannot flaunt stereotypes associated with men in this pursuit. I would be crucified if I posted “a successful man is one who has had many Ukrainian lovers, and a successful Ukrainian woman is one who keeps this man!!” The Ukrainian trio has already called such men “rats” and the rest of us “grandpas!” But for me the name calling is not the shock; it is the complete lack of common sense!

I can only wish that men such as you and those who read these posts, and I know there are many more who read than write, will not form opinions about an entire culture based on the irrational trio’s posts. Even in Ukraine I found wonderful examples of women who are different; and for those who are wise enough to forget about Ukraine and try in Russia or other republics there are far greater number of modest women who care for character, warmth, sincerity and kindness in men. Yes, there are many women there who will not measure a man by the content of his bank account and accuse us of being materialistic!

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